Monday, January 11, 2010
I wish I am someplace else...
I can’t stand the sight anymore.
I am very much aware that alcohol has the ability to completely change someone's temperament and attitude. But I have to deal with it and hope against hope that he won’t behave badly while he is not in a sober state. I have seen this many times before and I already know that trying to reason with someone when he’s drunk is a completely hopeless and useless exercise. There is a very good chance that he won’t even remember the majority of the words I say while he is intoxicated.
As the sober person in this situation I have to make sure that me and the kids will be safe. So it is necessary we stay out of his way and agree with what he is saying even if it does not make sense, simply to defuse the chances of the situation becoming violent.
Of course, he has deep unresolved issues he had not dealt with, and being intoxicated lowers his inhibitions and frees him up to act out his pent up emotions.
So, he hid these emotions when he is sober - that’s why he drinks?
But drinking won’t solve anything!!!
Didn’t he realize that while he drinks to drown all his problems, people around him have learned how to swim away?